My Take on Guns and Associated Violence

My Take on Guns and Associated Violence

Its not normal for me to make public posts about political or social issues, but I am making an exception this time.

In light of yet another tragic, and senseless, act of violence, with the use of firearms, in San Bernardino, I am completely at a loss for words to describe how I feel. Frustrated is the best I can come up with, yet, it doesn’t adequately fulfill the feelings I have regarding these acts.

As usual, the Democrats, and Republications, retreat to their corners and blast each other over the perceived reasons for these problems, we, as a society, face. We can toss out there all the cliches that are spouted each and every time, like ‘guns don’t kill people; people kill people.’

Democrats want more strict gun control laws, the Republicans want less restrictions on guns, and the United Nations wants to seize firearms from all civilians.

As far as I can see, no one side is going to achieve their aims in this endless battle over firearm ownership. But there is one solution that is possible, but not probable, and it’s not unlike what the UN is aiming for.

The real solution here is to eliminate firearms from everyone. When I say everyone, that means everyone, not just civilians in the United States. I mean everyone; civilians, criminals, terrorists, law enforcement, military, and governments, from all nations and peoples of the planet. Only then will gun violence cease.

If one group of people are allowed to have firearms, and others are not, the capacity to abuse, harm, injure, or kill others remains a real problem and a threat from those who would possess firearms. History has shown us this over, and over again. Take a look at almost any dictatorship and you’ll see abusive governments who remove firearms from their populace and then control and oppress them.

Let’s be realistic here though. We all know that it’s totally improbable to eradicate all firearms from the planet. We can disarm the civilian populace of many countries, but not all of them. The black market underground will always find a way to obtain firearms and use them; it occurs everyday and won’t stop.

The way I see it, disarming good, normally law-abiding civilians, only puts them at a disadvantage because bad guys don’t obey the law, which is why they’re bad guys. They won’t turn in guns because they’re told to. No, they’re going to keep them or find different ones.

Now, I am not advocating that all people should be allowed to own or possess firearms. Clearly, there are people who have no business with a gun in their hand. The laws we have in place in the United States are a good start to controlling access to those who shouldn’t have them. What we need is stricter enforcement of existing laws and better background checks and tougher application requirements along with more training.

No matter how many laws, how tough we make it to obtain guns, and how severe the punishment is for violating them, we cannot prevent everyone from going off the deep end and committing atrocities while using firearms.

It’s a sad reality of the world we live in. We can’t get rid of all firearms, nor can we prevent everyone who shouldn’t have access to them that access either. All we can do is continue to crack down on easy access methods, and continue to prosecute on violations of laws.

I agree that it should be more difficult to obtain firearms and that stricter requirements are met before a person can get one. But that doesn’t solve the problem of keeping firearms away from bad guys seeking to obtain them.

How can we prevent bad guys from getting firearms? I don’t know; I doubt that it’s possible.

At least, if civilians are allowed to possess and carry a firearm of their own, they pose a potential threat and provide a deterrent to suspecting bad guys looking to do them harm. Those bad guys, might, reconsider their actions.

I think the real problem with the violence is a human behavior problem. Some of the things that seems to be a root cause of the violence stems from political issues, social issues, religious issues, overwhelming stress leading to rage, and just plain evilness of some people. People who succumb to these things use firearms as a means to either promote their cause or to release their anger and stress.

If we could eliminate all firearms on the planet, these people would, no doubt, find and use some other means of carrying out their violence. Swords, knives, cars, you name it – anything that can be used as a weapon. Truly, there is no guard against this.

I have the solution, but I know that its not achievable. Short of that, I don’t have the answer to these problems and neither does anyone else.

5 Years On, Still Single & Happy

5 Years On, Still Single & Happy

It’s been nearly 5 years now since I wrote the blog post about choosing to be single and being happy about it. Today I’ve finished a book entitled Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After

After finishing the book and recalling the blog post I wrote, I was amazed at the similarities between both, and how I seemed to be on the same wave length as the author.

In the past 5 years things have largely remained the same with me as far as relationships go. There have been no new developments to speak of and on occasion someone try’s to convince me of joining an online dating site. I have gotten older and am now on the downward slope to 40 and lost a little bit of hair on the top of my head.

I suppose Ive softened up since the fist post on the topic and don’t feel like I should come off so hard anymore. I’ve learned that my solitude is part of my introverted needs. The need for alone time is a must in my life. Home is where I recharge my mental batteries and I can really only accomplish that by being by myself. I spend my days at the office working and interacting with others and that’s where I get my needs of a little extroversion fulfilled. It’s like a balance between the two personality types that each of us needs. Some need more introversion and others more extroversion, but we all need both. Going to work with people and coming home to no one provides me a great balance of both and allows me time to recharge for the next day.

I’m still amazed at the mythology that married, or coupled people, still seem to believe in the false notion that if you’re single, you’re lonely and in need of a partner. It’s seem like an automatic reflex for them to believe that and make comments to the same. What they don’t understand is introversion and the need for solitude. I feel like most people believe that introversion is a bad thing, that there is something wrong with you. That’s not the case at all. It’s not a bad thing, it’s a different thing that extroversion.

It does get old when people are always assuming that they can bother me when I’m not at work to do this or that, to fix this or help them with minor problems that can otherwise wait until I am at work again. It’s as if they think I am sitting around waiting for something to do or waiting to jump into action to fix something because I am not married with children which would presumably take my time. That time, as being valuable if you have a family. But if you’re single, your time isn’t valuable at all and it’s okay for others to bother you on your time off.

Not true at all. What makes people think a singles time is less valuable than a coupled person’s time? Isn’t it a bit biased to think that? My time is just as valuable to me as it is to coupled person’s time. What I choose to do with it is my business and I value it highly just as a coupled person would value their time together highly.

Wake up coupled people, us singles can be quite happy, if not more than you! Our time can be just as valuable as yours too. Don’t feel bad for us, because you might actually be insulting us. If you tell me that you hope I find someone soon, don’t get mad if I retort that I hope you get divorced soon, because, you know, being single is so much better than being married. It’s a two-way street so yield the right-of-way once in a while.

I’m still single and I’m still happy!

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