Teach Your Kids That What’s Good For Them Is Bad | Psychology Today

Teach Your Kids That What’s Good For Them Is Bad | Psychology Today

This is an interesting article and a topic of introversion I hadn’t previously considered. Teaching children that “going to your room” shouldn’t always coincide with with punishment. That it can be a positive thing as well. I would on occasion wonder about those kids who didn’t always want to play with everyone else and the teachers and parents who would think there is something wrong with them. But I never really put thought into it.

It would be nice if the schools could find a way to allow quiet time for those students who crave it. Some time alone, or in a quiet setting where they can recharge, or decompress from all the activities kids have these days. I’m always amazed at the schedules some parents have for their children. Their schooling, and then their after-school activities seem so demanding and leave little time for anything else. I always silently cringe when I hear these packed days and weeks in their lives. I silently am thankful that I didn’t have such a hectic upbringing and crazy schedule of schooling and sports and other activities.

While that may be fine for some kids and they enjoy it, I know there are other kids, like myself, who would loathe stuff like that and be grateful at the end of the day when they come home and get to their room by themselves.

I relate to that still today. After a day a work, I am thankful to be home where it’s quiet and I can decompress any way I like. Whether it be reading and participating online, watching TV, listening to music, reading a book or just taking a nap. Leaving the bustle of work, at work, is always a good feeling. That is especially true for me after my experience in the Marine Corps. There, I lived with and worked with the same people every day. There was no separation of work life and personal life. We worked together, we ate together, we hung out together and everything in between. Most times, on the weekends when others left the base to party or go places and visit people, I would stay in my barracks room where it would end up quiet for a day or two and that allowed me to recharge and prepare for the following work week.

I think it’s important for the education system to take a look at and find a way for them to incorporate and accept introversion into the school day and allow those students to feel more at peace about it. Even if they can have 20 or 30 minutes would be fantastic.


One response

  1. Great post!!! I did a little reminiscing myself today. I remember as a child I would retreat to my room during birthday parties, holiday time, or when my parents had visitors. My parents would come to get me and tell me that I was being rude. They even labeled me as a mean little girl. I wasn’t mean. I just didn’t need a whole group of people around me to celebrate anything. I couldn’t take the small chit chat for hours on end for very long. I think others see us introverts as snobby, or anti-social, but that is just not the case. I care about others, and I get out often. I am just a little bit picky about how, and who I spend my days with.


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